If You Want to Be A Writer-You MUST READ

Recently at an event I was attending someone said to me, “they keep telling us to read books, I don’t have time to read, I’m a writer.” Then she sorted and laughed. I said, “well I read, on average two (YA mostly) books a week, every week because I love to read.” She said, “well, then you must not write much.” I said, “I write every day, no exception, for at least an hour.” (sometimes it’s complete shite, but she didn’t need that detail). She said, “I don’t have time to read! I hate books, the only thing I read is my own writing.” It made me think of this famous quote, from Stephen King!!

Also I have to add this, I don’t read YA just to stay current, (that’s just an added bonus) I read YA because I love it-this is also the reason I write it. I LOVE it-I always have-even before it was trendy and called YA. (I also read MG and adult-just not as much, but I can’t wait for the new Rick Riordan book to come out this fall.

This year so far I have read 70 books so far.

Here’s how I do it. I read one a week on Nook. I read one read book-one I can hold in my hands, and then I listen to one on Audible while I work, on average I manage 6-10 a month this way. I can’t wait to get back to my books every day.

I’m a writer because I don’t have a choice in the matter-if I end up being successful that will be a bonus, but I do it because I have to. The same is true for reading, I can’t imagine a life without books.

Watching a Fellow Writer is Sometimes Like Watching a Train Crash

Watching a Fellow Writer is Sometimes Like Watching a Train Crash-don’t let this happen to you.

I am sharing an experience I had with a fellow writer. I’m not sure why her behavior is/was the way it is/was-jealousy? Fear? No self confidence? Who knows, but I think it’s a good way for others to learn.

So last fall a fellow unpublished YA writer sought me out and became my BFF—-RED FLAG WARNING—-she bad mouthed everyone to me, including her agent—-in fact her agent become the biggest part of her phone calls, or I shall say RANTS to me. She had just signed with her too. I tried to be a good friend and offer advice on why she shouldn’t talk about her agent that way, to anyone, and she did the paranoid turnaround-“Oh I’m just saying to you, and I don’t mean anything by it,” etc.. but she did.

She also spent hours slamming friends, and fellow, writers we both knew. “Her story is horrible,” “She’s never going to get published”, “She’s been trying to sell that thing for years-it’s not good.” “She self published and now everyone knows she is horrible.” and that’s the nice stuff-she said a lot more, but in order to protect her, and anyone she might have slammed who might be reading this, I don’t want to say more.

I think she may be rooming with one of the writers who she constantly slammed, at the summer conference, I honestly don’t know. It’s hard to watch her pretend to be this writer’s friend when she spent so much time slamming her.

She also gave me her version of advice. “Don’t submit to these agents, they are horrible”-including ones who I am friends with. She said that one agent I have been interested in possibly signing with is a slut and a drunk-yup she told me that about someone I respect and like. (I think said agent turned her down). She told me NOT to work one on one with an editor who I met and did a retreat with, saying that this woman is “washed up and doesn’t know what she’s doing.” only to find out, she has hired this editor in the past. I knew that listening to it though.

It really felt like she was trying to sabotage my writing. She told me not to go to any SCBWI events, that it was wasting my money and full of all older women jealous of her and her beauty. (She’s not super young-and even if she was, ew!)

Soon, I dreaded picking up the phone because she never had anything good to say. She would just brag about all her deals-(which I really hope have happened, because I want success for all my friends, or all writers out there-friends or not)-and she slammed everyone else.

I hardly got a word in, but I heard, by name all the editors in New York that she “refused” to work with and didn’t want her agent submitting to. I heard all the agents she hated. I heard all the books and writers she hated. I sometimes put the phone down and when I came back she was still complaining about everyone.

It was uncomfortable to say the least. 

This writer has become really obnoxious on social media too-always bragging and being phony.

I was at conference that she also attended. I ran into her and she spent the better part of 30 minutes slamming every illustrator’s work there, and every writer. She slammed this one writer-who is on the bestseller list and is semi-famous, then I watched her kiss his ass telling him how much she loved his books-after she had spent an hour the night before telling me that she “didn’t know how he got published, cuz his books are boring and  her kid thought so too, and she slept through the film version.”

It was hard to watch.

It was harder to listen to.

I slowly eased out of the friendship-which was dwindling anyhow, due to the fact that I’m not famous.

The reason I’m sharing this is really for advice for new writers.

1. Never bad mouth your agent.

2. Never bad mouth other writers.

3. Never bad mouth editors.

4. Don’t be phony

5. Don’t suck up to people to advance your career.

It was like watching  a train wreck. I tried to warn her of her behavior, but she wasn’t listening.

My heart breaks for her and I really hope that she doesn’t hurt her career by being  the way she is. 

This is her first agent and first book, and first deal, so it’s common that people get too big for their britches, but it’s still hard to watch.

I hope this helps some people not go down that path and if you do have a friend like that, ease out of it because you don’t want them and their drama bringing you down.